Open Questions

June 21, 2011 - 3 minutes read

I’ve been working alongside Kezia Noble now for the majority of 2010. One of the things she prides herself teaching in is ‘Deeper Connection’ and that is exactly what this post is going to be about.  I’m not going to go into great detail about obtaining a deeper connection with someone but what I will talk about is what I hope will be a big ‘ah-ha’ moment for you and that is…

Open Questions

Questions may be closed or open.  Closed questions are designed to close possibilities and can be answered with a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’, which often puts us in a situation where we come to an abrupt halt or end to the conversation.  Open questions can deliver us an unlimited amount of information. Open questions begin with ‘what’,  ‘who’,  ‘why’,  ‘when’  and ‘how’ and can elicit a range of conversational threads.


Seeks information

Elicits outcomes


Seeks information about people


Seeks justifications and reasons for actions

Seeks values

Allocates blame

Searches for meaning

Looks for past causes


Orients in time

Seeks time-bound information (past,  present or future)

Ssks for triggers and cues for action


Asks for information about places


Explores process

Models the process

Elicits strategies

Asks for quality and quantity (How many? How much?)

What Questions Can Do

  • Elicit states
  • Get information
  • Give choices or take them away,  depending on the presuppositions
  • Direct attention and so create reality
  • Cause a transderivational search
  • Model strategies
  • Elicit resources
  • Challenge assumptions
  • Orient in time by asking about past,  present  or future
  • Elicit outcomes
  • Associate or dissociate
  • Give strategies
  • Build or break rapport
  • Summarize
  • Elicit qualities & values


A little tip which may seem so goddamn obvious but not a lot of guys actually do out there is LISTEN TO HER. It’s that simple.  Don’t switch off and start checking out her gorgeous boobs or her smack ass killer highnie,  actually LISTEN TO HER. Women need to be mentally stimulated as well as physically but if we’re not mentally stimulating them, we’re not going to get as far as physically! Pay attention to the information she feeds you.

Johnny Cassell

You can learn a lot more about Deeper Connection and mentally stimulating a woman’s mind in Kezia’s Deeper Connection DVD set by clicking the link below which will be a great way to make a lot more impact with women!

If you want to start increasing your current level of success with women, then remember to send Johnny an email directly: [email protected] and get started with one on one pick up master class training.
Where you can work with Johnny and take your game to the next level.

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