Six things to think about when picking up a girl at the gym

May 26, 2017 - 8 minutes read

Tips on Picking up a girl at your Local Gym

The gym seems like an obvious hotspot for meeting women.

On the one hand, it’s where you’re building yourself and feeling great about yourself and attractive, motivated women in figure-hugging clothing surround you. There’s always the hot girl at the gym that you just can’t stop watching.

However, amidst all the testosterone and chest thumping, you’re also sweating and making strange noises. Everyone is also very much focused on themselves, and women as much as anyone, so how do you climb over that social barrier to make a meaningful connection?

Picking up girls at the gym can be pretty straightforward, and asking a girl out at the gym can sometimes leave you with a phone number in seconds.

You just have to bear these 6 things in mind:

Pick your moment very wisely

Exercise-based compliments only

Look tasteful

Build rapport quickly

Don’t show off

Don’t even think about lingering

Let me break these down for you.

Pick your moment very wisely

You know that feeling when someone asks you if they can use the machine when you’re literally mid-rep? You wouldn’t give them your phone number either.

If she’s doing some stretching with her ass up in the air, don’t be the creep that goes over and tries to have a full-blown conversation with her. You will intimidate her.

How to approach a girl at the gym all stems from timing. Wait until she’s no longer exercising, or maybe stopping for a water break, and go over with a smile on your face. Perhaps give your forehead a bit of a wipe-down first.

If she’s training with a buddy, talk to them both, but don’t approach if either is spotting.

Exercise-based compliments only

Storming over like Thor himself and telling them their ass looks fantastic in Lycra will not win you any brownie points, however true it may be.

Always compliment their workout technique, or attitude. Maybe say that you liked the look of one of her exercises and wondered if she could teach you. You can keep the field of play completely tasteful.

At the end of the day, people go to the gym to be with themselves and push their limits. Positive reinforcement and energy is good to hear and you’re not distracting them with sexuality when they don’t need it.

Look tasteful

You might be ripped, but no-one is about seeing the bulge of your knob on your first introduction. It takes a very specific kind of person to pull off short shorts, and for the sake of this article I’m going to wager you’re not them. By all means try.

However, a girl will be most comfortable talking to you in longer shorts that cover the knee, and a simple sports t-shirt or tank.

When you’re picking up chicks at the gym, remember that there won’t be a person there who’s looking their best. You can at least be approachable.

POWER TIP: Smell tasteful too. Don’t let your sweat do the talking for you but don’t douse yourself in cologne as an obvious cover-up. Find a scent that works for you and put on a small amount of it before you work out.

Build rapport quickly

Open with a compliment (exercise-based, as discussed) and a smile, and always keep it light. You can even try a high-five – it’s surprisingly effective.

Either way, you’re not about to hog too much of her workout session, so you have a limited time in which to make an impact. Don’t start bragging about your reps, positively reinforce her and be a force of fun in an unusual environment.

If she’s winding down her workout and leaving, why not offer to carry her stuff to the car and use it to compliment her workout.

“Bloody hell, what you were doing over there would’ve flattened me out, can I carry your bags to the car for you?”

Basic and gentlemanly. And even if she says no, you can springboard from it and reply with something like “well, I saw what you did to that dumbbell, I’m pretty sure you can take care of yourself. Can I take your number in case I try that workout and have an emergency?”

You can always build an approach if you just listen to what they’re saying and react in a friendly, enthusiastic, positive way, even when you meet girls at the gym.

Don’t show off

This relates to keeping it light. Don’t sidle up next to her and try to lift more than you actually can to show how strong you are, or start trying to outdo her at her own exercises.

Part of keeping it light is making sure she doesn’t think you’re a dick. So don’t be. Don’t even mention your own workout.

In a club, you’d ask her questions about herself and let her talk. So do the same – ask her about her workout, and don’t give too much away about yourself. In a gym situation, you’re just an impressed onlooker.

Don’t try and take over her workout, or tell her she’s doing something wrong, either. Positivity is key to success in a gym approach.

Don’t even think about lingering

Build even the briefest flicker of a connection with the above and go straight for the number. You don’t have long and there’s only so much you can do in such an environment. But if you made a good impression personality-wise, she knows you keep yourself in good nick and she’s seen your body.

If she’s giving you her number here, it’s a great sign.

That’s all there is. It’s just about having the brass balls to go over to someone in an unusual context.

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