How to pull girls on holiday
I’m going to focus on Ibiza for this piece, because very few places epitomise sex on vacation like this one. But, these tips apply anywhere there is sun, sea, epic clubs and hot women on tap.
You’re going on holiday, no doubt, for a few days’ respite from the drudgeries of everyday life and a refill on that tan. But if you’re going to Ibiza, you’re probably young, ready to fill yourself with exotic beverages and land yourself some good ol’ fashioned holiday sex.
There’s some things you simply cannot forget from your normal approach, but there are added elements that you cannot ignore if you are looking at getting laid. You don’t have the normal quest for things to talk about with a girl (although you should consider my 7 Day Course if you’re drawing up a list of pre-ordained topics to bring up – you’re doing it wrong) and places to make an approach.
Ibiza chicks are e v e r y w h e r e and everyone is drunk and, conveniently, also looking for sex in Ibiza. ‘Is it easy to pull in Ibiza?’ should be a question answered with an eye-roll and a shrug, but it’s not quite so simple.
But like Magaluf, Zante and many other places like it, girls in Ibiza also have a limitless array of men to choose from. Think your local Oceana but the men are chiselled and topless and conscious and there’s a whole island’s worth of them. You are never short of competitors when it comes to holiday romance, and you have a short time in which to convince a lot of women that sex on the beach with you is going to be more worth her drinking time than with proto-Zac-Efron over there.
So you’d better get cracking, hadn’t you?
- INVEST IN YOUR IMAGE
- SAVE UP. TAKE. MONEY.
- TALK TO AS MANY GIRLS AS IS PHYSICALLY POSSIBLE
- TIME YOUR APPROACHES WELL
- BE EXTREMELY PROACTIVE AND CHANGE SCENERY
- AMP UP THE PHYSICALITY
- AVOID GETTING ATTACHED
Invest in your image
You’re looking for sex holidays, and want to land a gorgeous Ibiza nudist volleyball champion. Or similar. You’re likely going to be topless around her, and you’re going to have to feel confident being so
Everyone talks about a beach body being how to get girls, but you don’t have to turn up looking like Terry Cruz (this being said, it definitely won’t hurt if you do.) It is important, however, to have a body that you can feel relaxed and confident about baring during flirty conversation. If you’re an extremely self-confident larger man then go for it – there’s plenty out there for a sexy fat guy – but being in the shape you want before you go will help no end. Talking to girls is greatly improved by not worrying about how low your nipples are.
Looks aren’t everything, of course. You can still land yourself Ibiza sex (or anywhere sex, for that matter) with a strong, reactive conversation, outgoing and smart about the way you come across. How to talk to girls doesn’t become less important with a six-pack.
You can put money on the fact that at least once you will think you are gaining ground with a girl but will be dropped instantly for a rippling hunk. In fact, you will most likely have bought her Ibiza-price drinks, too, so you will be putting a whole lot of money on it. But if the strengths of your approach are more in the talking to girls than your looks, at least focus on your wardrobe and body (hit the gym, hard – it’s as good a time as any) to the point that you can showcase your amazing social engineering skills with minimal self-consciousness.
Save up. Take. Money.
Ibiza is expensive, and you don’t want to be the guy that runs out of cash and therefore places to take a girl when you’re there. You don’t have to be the guy at Ocean Beach cascading £325 champagne over everyone, but drinks, club entry and parties are on a whole other plateau of pricing, even at the bottom end of the scale.
Not only for the purposes of buying drinks for women; also, for yourself. You likely took a holiday because you deserve it and you’ve saved up anyway. You’re likely considering how to get laid to make the most of it. So pay entry to clubs; put yourself in as many places with as many women as possible.
Money doesn’t substitute how to talk – you can (and should) still approach girls on the beach, at your hotel, in cheaper bars around the city. That’s free, cheap and easy
But the little things and the big things will add up, and you can afford to lose momentum about as much as you can afford a £10 bottle of coke. I’m not joking. Plus, you’re not going to be seen enjoying yourself as much if you are worrying about money – and your enjoyment is how to make a girl want you.
Talk to as many girls as possible
The wonderful thing about the pursuit of sex on the beach is that you may never see any of these people again. Which means, short of shooting yourself in the foot, you get to be as gregarious and outrageous as you’ve ever been.
The key thing is to have fun while you’re doing. You are likely there with other people you know, so try to set up games with everyone – bring girls into a game of water volleyball, or push them into the pool.
You will literally never run out of women to talk to. Set yourself little games, like highfiving everyone in the room, or having your friends take a shot for every girls you talk to. Just push yourself more than you ever have.
What to talk about with a girl in Ibiza is easy – you’re not in their natural setting with them. Find out where they’re from, what they do, whether they only like the kind of music in the club/bar you’re at. There will be girls from so many different places that this will pick the topic.
Time your approaches well
Girls may not want to be bothered while they’re tanning away their hangovers the morning after a big night, so how to approach a girl during the daytime is general friendliness and rapport building. It’s how it should be normally, but unless you’re getting very obvious feedback from a girl use the daytime to make arrangements for the evening festivities. It’s barely even setting up a date. It’s just filling up the breaks between dancing with practicalities.
People aren’t just non-stop bonking machines and go on holiday just to chill out too. If you see a girl reading, maybe note when she goes to the bar or goes for a swim and ask about her book. A personality doesn’t switch off when it’s in a bikini – find out what she likes and explore it.
Of course, come the night time it’s about dancing and getting close and how to talk is, well, a little less important that it was six hours ago. But laying a successful groundwork during the day is crucial to sealing the deal later on.
Be extremely proactive and change scenery
The great thing about venturing to talk to girls on holiday is that you’re both exploring somewhere new. Or, if you’ve been there before, you get to take the lead in recommending new places, or get her to make recommendations and arrange to meet her there. Either way, anywhere you go to hang out or eat or dance will be a fresh experience – so make the most of it, for you own sake and for the girl’s. Karaoke is always fun to suggest, especially going out as a group of you. It opens everyone up, and allows for mock duets and physicality.
Once it gets to closing time, finding somewhere secluded is key. But with luck, you’ll be near a beach or at least somewhere balmy outside. You basically have the set of a nineties rom-com gifted to you, so use it to bolster your confidence. If you’ve been dancing and hanging out all day and you’re alone on a beach, she is on some level expecting you to at least attempt a kiss. Start slow, let her come some of the way in, and it’ll be a great, memorable moment.
Amp up the physicality
If you really know how to make a woman want you, holiday romances set up the kind of environment that easily enables closing in one day. Get physically comfortable outside first, kiss long and slow and keep your hands at the base of her back. Kiss her neck and ears. Neither of you will be wearing a great deal as it is, so you’ll be able to brush against skin and make the sexual tension crackle this way.
You’ll also have a hotel room, making an invitation home all the more easy. If you’re on holiday expecting to bring someone back, have a room that shows that – have drinks in fridge, keep the room neat, maybe use some of those savings I mentioned earlier to get a nicer room. Or at the very least a room on your own, devoid of interruptions or pranks.
As long as you are having fun, and throwing yourself into every second of your holiday, you should get to this stage pretty easily. But it’s also easy to get into bed with the wrong woman – keep stocked up on condoms and respect the boundaries of extremely drunk girls, of which you will encounter a great deal.
Avoid getting attached
Ibiza and its ilk are actually fantastic proving grounds for approaching women, and even if you meet a girl you really like, how to get any girl to like you is by talking to other women. If she sees you talking to everyone, then you will be the one she thinks about when she goes home. And if you still have her number, call her and arrange to meet up.
Holiday flings are a sure-fire, short term investment. If you put in enough time and energy, you’re more likely than usual to score. But it’s unlikely to come to anything substantial – many people are there on the same quest as you.
Memories are more important. So, over all else, have fun and make them! But also, go get yourself an odyssey of sexual encounters.