When you’re starting out on your journey to seduction mastery, it can help to know where to meet single women.
It can be so easy to stay on the same old beaten track, looking for love at work or through mutual friends. However, it is vital to keep stepping outside of your comfort zone and developing confidence in places where you won’t need to settle.
You don’t need to be thinking about where to meet women. You have to start thinking about meeting the type of woman you actually desire.
That is the first step in thinking about this question: Getting rid “settling” as an option.
Now you’re ready to begin thinking about where to put your skills to the test.
The importance of positioning
Let me give you a picture of how positioning works, as it functions inside and outside of the dating world.
I grew up in Reading and now live in the center of Mayfair, doing what I love and living an affluent lifestyle. I got to that stage not because I have wealthy parents or a particularly stunning education, but because I made the decision to place myself around the types of people I aspired to be like.
I wanted that 7-figure lifestyle. But I was developing my own business without really being around other people or at freelancer and networking meet-ups. While there were advantages to this, I felt myself getting further and further away from my ideal life.
Sure enough, the moment I upgraded myself from meets in coffee shops to Mayfair’s exclusive member’s clubs, I started learning from the investment bankers hashing out large deals all around me.
From there, I’ve been able to build a successful business and start living the lifestyle of which I’d always dreamed.
The reason I’m telling you about this is to instill the importance of your surroundings in shaping your life.
If you want to meet the type of woman you really, truly desire, you have to put yourself in the position of being around them.
Start out by creating a list of attributes you’d want your woman to have – let’s say you like a particular nationality, maybe a creative woman, or a great dancer. Perhaps you want to meet a woman who is well advanced in her career and self-sufficient.
Do you think you’re going to meet her at Yates’s? Of course not. You’re going to have to shift your sights more upmarket.
Think about London, for example – you have the central banking district, filled with affluent gentlemen and women who know they are around men with money.
There are places like Soho, rich in beautiful, creative woman. Or you can head to the more touristy areas if you’re looking for an international woman.
Cross-pollinating different scenes is where wingmen can come in handy. I used to work with a wingman who was far more into the indie scene than I was, but I got to introduce him more to the commercial dance scene in London. Because of this, we were consistently crossing over into each other’s social circle and learning to communicate with a broader range of women.
Have a particular affection for Italian or American women? Then hop on a plane for a holiday in either country and get talking to as many women as you can.
There is no one “correct” place to meet single women, as meeting women who are single and don’t interest you takes up valuable time you could spend securing a genuine prospect for happiness.
Mirror what you want to attract
“Attract what you expect, reflect what you desire, become what you respect, and mirror what you admire.”
If you want a strong, funny, successful, compassionate woman, you have to step out and embody those qualities yourself.
They say “opposites attract,” and that can apply in some cases of people with opposing personalities, say. However, when two people with opposing values date, it becomes a different matter.
Your values and desirable attributes demonstrate what you value the most, and it is these, not your bicep size or bank balance, that will make you either an attractive or unattractive prospect for her as an investment.
Once you have a concept of your ideal woman, you have to embody the values you’d want to see in her. Women want to be challenged on their level. So if you want a decisive, confident woman, don’t falter when you walk over to her and be sure to use assumptive language.
If you want a woman who listens to you, make a concerted effort to ask open questions and get her talking about herself. If you want a woman who’s passionate about a particular craft or field, become equally animated when you talk about your passions.
Gandhi famously said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” This quote applies equally to dating. Put your money where your mouth is, and embody the qualities you want to see in your ideal partner.
The bottom line
However, with all this talk of positioning and strategising, there’s one thing you have to remember:
Anywhere can be a great place to meet single women once you master the ability to have an impactful conversation with them.
Whether you’re at the library, the coffee shop, the supermarket, or the park, you should able to meet women wherever you go. The only thing stopping you is inaction, not the location.
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