Hi guys, welcome back to my blog. Today, we are going to talk about how to talk to women.
Tip one: Breaking patterns
So, the first thing we are going to talk about is to break the pattern of boring conversations. In our day-to-day lives, we are posed the questions, ‘what do you do?’ ‘where are you from?’ and ‘how old are you?’ and quite frankly, this is a big yawn.
Look at what the status quo is, and do the opposite. Whatever the masses are doing, do the opposite. That’s how you’re going to make impact.
I always think of this story. It was about Christmas Eve, three or four years ago. I saw a childhood sweetheart that everyone was besotted with when they were younger. All the interactions that people were making with her, were based on Dutch courage. People were having a few drinks and going over, but I could see that she was just so bored, with all these people going up to her, posing the same interactions, doing the same thing.
So I thought I would break the pattern. So I go over there, and I say, ‘You know what, I could never work it out with you.’ She goes, ‘What?’ Straight away, I’ve got her attention because I’ve broken the pattern. I go, ‘I could never work out whether you were one of these last minute Christmas shoppers or if you were super organised and had everything done around June or July.’ She goes, ‘It’s ridiculous. This year, I’ve been the most disorganised person ever, but normally I’m really, super organised.’
And there it was, I got my foot in the door. I got her attention and the reason is that she had to invest in the answer she gave me. If you’re put in front of people who ask you the same questions day in, day out, you just go into autopilot and don’t even have to think of your response.
So that’s my first big tip. If you want to make impact, break patterns. See what people usually do in conversations and just break the cycle.
Tip two: Mix it up
The second tip I have is to get bored of your own dialogue.
If you hear yourself say the same stuff every day, chances are you’re going to be bored of hearing it. If you’re bored of it, how do you think the person listening to you is feeling?
So look out for that, and try and inject a little more flavour into your conversations.
Tip three: Become a man of mystery
Don’t give too much away too early. You really want to play that man of mystery card.
If you give everything away in the early stages, why does she need to see you again? You have to leave something for her to learn about.
See it as a ladder of progression. That way, you can keep the sense of mystery in the conversation and, from that point on, in the relationship as it progresses.
So there you have it, three big tips for how to have more interesting conversations with women. Break your patterns, get bored of your dialogue and really play up to being a man of mystery.
Have fun with this stuff, and let me know how you get on.