The beach is an ideal place when think how to approach girls – generally people are relaxed, the sun is out, the clothes are skimpier and everyone is looking their best. Your archetypal returning from Ibiza yarn is one of sex on the beach, or at least meeting a girl on the beach and heading somewhere else for Ibiza Sex. It’s normally accompanied by a smug smile because of just how great you felt finally being the guy that relived every early-2000s hip-hop video he ever sat through.
However, it’s also a place where people are sleeping and getting some respite from reality. And they’re in bikinis, which will likely mean they are in a fun, confident mood, but it does increase the stakes of physical contact. If your approach isn’t clean and forthright, they may get uncomfortable quicker.
You’ll be far from the only one on the lookout for Ibiza chicks on the beach, but if you set our your stall right, you’ll be headed home with far more than sand in your shoes.
- SET UP BASE AND BRING PROVISIONS.
- KNOW YOUR WOMAN & YOUR BEACH
- BE RELAXED AND FRIENDLY
- PLAY GAMES
- MAKE PLANS
Before you go, dress light but comfortable. If you’re not quite comfortable topless, then don’t put yourself through it – wear light colours in case you overheat. Black is known to absorb warmth, and you want to be sweating a minimal amount when you’re mid-conversation.
Holiday romance is by its very nature chilled out. So if you go prowling the front like a horny badger, women are going to feel threatened or at least awkward when you talk to them.
Build a lighthouse and let the ships come in. Bring a large blanket and make sure it’s simple and boldly coloured (stripes and patterns set off the ol’ maternal instincts, studies show) ensuring that you have ample shade in the form of a canopy, or a parasol. Sunscreen is essential for both you (that is, unless you want to yelp with agony every time your skin touches hers) and for opening conversations by offering it to girls (more on that.) Make sure you bring a range of SPFs to guarantee more conversations.
A cooler of drinks is another crucial step in how to get laid from a beach encounter. Bring a range of beers, soft drinks and heaps of water. Again, you’re going to be offering out a lot.
Also, a great way to enter negotiations for sex in Ibiza is to bring the best provisions of all – your friends! Be open with them that if you score then you may not return to the sandcastles you’re building and you’ll be doing your own. But have fun with them. Girls in Ibiza are mostly there now to Instagram themselves having varying levels of fun and get hearts on their Ibiza pictures, so if they see you’re having fun, they’ll want in.
Know your woman and your beach
You almost certainly have a type – if not a hair colour then a lifestyle or personality you gravitate towards when you’re seeing about getting laid. Sex on vacation means you can go all out to get that type. Or, you can take a break from it. Your call.
Either way, certain beaches attract certain types, and you have to know what you’re going for. A little planning is key. If you want to meet locals and try a few terrible Spanish chat-up lines, try Cala d’en Serra. For a quieter, classier environment, you can try Cala de Boix or Cala Conte (which boasts some pretty famous sunsets for a mood-establisher.)
You may be lucky enough to have a beach in or near your hotel, and you’ll have hopefully booked a holiday that suits you. Needless to say, you will find girls of a similar pay bracket here, maybe from the same country, and with the added advantage of knowing meeting up with them will be easy.
Many of the beaches have notorious designated Ibiza nudist areas, so they’re great for a laugh or even a few approaches if you’re feeling brave. It’s worth gauging how comfortable she is being round a bunch of (often elderly) naked folk.
Be relaxed and friendly
You may be one of the ones who looks good topless, but if you pout and pose you’ll going to look like a wet weekend.
Is it easy to pull in Ibiza? It’s one of the natural consequences of fun in Ibiza. So play beach games, build sandcastles, get in the sea, have music playing (respectfully) and be a hub of activity for girls to flock to. Also, a stray frisbee is a great way to open with a girl (in moderation – too many stray frisbees either makes you look too afraid to talk to women or dismal at frisbee).
You should be this way normally when thinking about how to approach women, but you have a uniquely whimsical environment in which to play out your social engineering skills – you’re not really at the beach unless you’re down for a good time.
If you’re in your area (it’s more than just a blanket: you’ve marked it out to warn other guys) simply look around. If a girl catches you looking at her, smile, say hello and continue your search. If she walks near, or past you later, offer her some water and shade. Ask her some questions about herself, where she’s from, how her day’s been – focussing on her, as always when talking to women – and then offer sunscreen.
Here’s where you set the boundaries: let her put on the sunscreen, unless she asks for help. Go full gentleman, and then invite her into a fun game of volleyball. While you do this, gauge her knowledge of the area – if she’s local, ask if she can show you any cool places while you’re there. You’re unlikely to be full on making out with a girl after a beach approach, especially if she’s with a group of friends.
Make a game of photos as well. Have a great time posing and being goofy and making them laugh right before the shot is taken. Not only will this be a chance to build great rapport
In fact groups of friends are the best type of beach approach, because girls feel safe even when not wearing a great deal. Avoid large groups, as they’re likely to stay together, but aim for around three girls. You can even make a plan as a group for later.
It’s no trickier than that. Simply treat getting her number as a formality after a fun day, and assume she wants to see you again. If she doesn’t, you’ll have plenty more opportunities to meet women when the sun’s down. If she’s in your hotel, maybe meet up with her again face-to-face for a drink before heading out. You’ve done the legwork already.
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