Hi guys, its Johnny Cassell. Today, I’m going to talk about how to get out of the friend zone. The friend zone is something we’ve all experienced, right? It may even be a situation you’re currently in. What I’m going to help you do, is get yourself out of that friend zone. Now, lets think about it logically. In order for us to feel sexual about someone, the relationship with them needs to be sexual, otherwise it’ll remain platonic.
The problem is you havn’t taken the risk to get the reward. Youll hear me say this a lot. If you don’t take the risk, you don’t get the reward.
Now, what do I mean by taking things sexually? It may be as simple as slowing down your voice to build up tension when you speak. Don’t be scared of building tension. Good tension and bad tension are both the same. Because we can always take it sexually. Hold your eye contact for a bit longer when you speak to them – but don’t forget to accompany it with a smile so you don’t come across as a bit of a creepy wierdo.
A common flaw I see in people communicating with the person they want to get out of the friend zone with, is that they’re constantly texting them, having a friendly conversation. Texting is not for chatting. Texting is for flirting or logistics. If she starts off a big conversation, don’t keep carry on with it. If she wants a conversation, she needs to understand that’s what phone calls are for, or to see you in person. The reason for this is that you can’t really show emotion through text messages.
The chances are she’s probably got hundreds of guys she’s texting at the same time to get that male attention. You don’t want to be that guy, you want to be that guy that if she wants your attention, she’s got to earn it.
So there are a few things for you to note down to help you get out the friend zone. In a nutshell, it’s typically escalation. Just escalate. The reason why you’re only friends with that girl you’ve got in your mind right now is because you didn’t escalate, so she doesn’t see you as someone to potentially have sex with.
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